Working moms vs Stay at home moms

Mom's are hard workers no matter if they stay at home, work out of the home, single or married. Moms try their hardest, protect their family, educate their children, nutritious their children, etc.

There is this weird thing among mom's that can change ones presence/posture when speaking with other moms.  Not that it's right, it just happens. The working mom says "oh, you stay at home with your kids" and the stay at home mom says "oh, you work away from the home".  Each does what they feel is best/right for their family.

I, at times, am envious of the stay at home mom (SAHM). I too would like to stay at home with my little.  Teach her the things she needs to know for kindergarten, clean during the day, have home cooked meals, desserts, bread, etc., do all the projects I have pinned, be involved with all of the little SAHM mommy clubs.  Which tend to be very exclusive to SAHM's.

On the reverse side. I love the school my little is at right now.  She has great social skills, loves learning, knows almost all her letters and sounds and is starting to do simple reading.  I enjoy my job and the social interactions that is allows.  I have also made some great friends.  

My mom was a SAHM, as a child I loved that she was home when I got home from school, that she was my Girl Scout leader, the room mother for my class.  She always knew what I was doing and who my friends are.  Helped me with my homework.  Was my advocate when I needed it.  Took care of me when I was sick, took me to the doctor when I needed to go.  I know she sacrificed things.  She was and is a great mom.

I am a mom that works away from the home.  I feel as if I am chasing my tail when it comes to keep up with the house, laundry, cooking, etc.  I feel torn when it come to playing Barbie's or switching over the laundry.  Bedtime, oh how I would love to let her stay up all night.  I know better, I know a schedule and consistency is vital to her learning and happiness.  To our families happiness.  I charish the weekends, the evenings, the rides to and from school.  I enjoy it when she climbs up on the kitchen stool to "help" me cook.  I try to use all the time possible and make it as quality as I as I can.

I believe a SAHM and working mom tries to make all their time quality.  When you become burnt out, frustrated, get cabin fever.  Don't complain on social media the the kids are driving you crazy, or I wish they were back in school so you are home alone to get your "chores done", finishing your work week to pawn your kids off on their grandparents so you can have as many weekends as possible "kid free". It's ok to take a break. As mom, as a parent, you need some "me time". Just the reason for the break and the approach is what matters.  

Sorry

Ok the Facebook poll has settled down.

As a parent I think your child should say sorry. Now that being said, there are many ways to go about it.  Of course I don't think that saying sorry right after you smack someone upside the head is the intention. That's typically when a child is trying not to get into trouble. 

I do think that modeling what you want is the best. Say sorry when you should, to your kids, spouse, or friends. It is a great way for them to learn.

Ask them what they think they may need to say, when they have said or done something wrong. Ask them if there was a different way they could have done that.  Also, saying sorry doesn't mean there aren't other consequences. 

I think no matter what if you aren't teaching your child to say sorry, why they say sorry, andwhat they did that needs an apology. 

There is a society of children growing up thinking that nothing has value, expecting everything from everyone, they are always right about everything, and it doesn't matter who they hurt on the way. 

I read a post stating he was tired of waiter/waitresses, and bartenders not saying " thank you" for the tip.....hmmmmm, this may be my next blog.